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Iām Jenn, the human behind f*ck i love you.
Iām a neurocomplex* strategist, writer, podcaster and futurist exploring AI, culture, transformation & love ethics. Iām the creator behind this publication, and its companion pod, f*ck i loved that, a TL;DR ~15 min weekly synthesis of my current obsessions (usually getting from here to futures worth living in).
Iām so happy youāre here. And I fucking love you.
Now Iāll tell you what loveās got to do with it.
āFuck, I love youā ā and its first cousin, I fucking love you ā is what youāll hear me say when you light up my brain and my heart at the same time. It is joy, respect, reverence, affection, appreciation and amazement all smashed together and spontaneously exclaimed.
When I read bell hooksā All About Love, expression became philosophy: love is not just a feeling, it is an action. Choices. Investments in growth and betterment. Mutuality. A practice. A politic that whole societies can run on.
And we need new ideas about how societies can run right about now. This version has run its course. This shit is obviously not working. Not for anyone, not anywhere. The cracks are turning into chasms, quick. Meanwhile, the robots nip at our heels.
Cracks might not be all bad though. Theyāre how the light gets in. And cracks are what interest me most ā the kind that form in humans and societies alike. Because nothing ever changes without cracking wide open first.
This is the way of transformation. Even and especially, the kind that starts in crisis. I meanā¦do they ever start in any other way?
And transformation ā mine, yours and ours ā is what this publication is all about.
So if you love personal revealings that canāt help but find themselves tangled up in wry, irreverent social commentary coloured by just enough profanityā¦
and if you too think a whole hell of a lot needs to change around hereā¦
and you are insatiably curious about what it means to be human in the Now/Future, this liminal upside down fuck around weāre trying to survive, then maybe, probably, my stuff is for you.
And if Iām right and if Iām lucky, fuck I love you is what my writingāll make you wanna say, too.
*neurocomplex is a term coined by fellow substacker to use in place of neurodivergent or any of the pathologized acronyms Iāve collected after my name: Autism, ADHD, BD (maybe), MD, PMDD, or CPTSD ā all terms used to describe the broad collection of neurological differences, sensitivities ā and in DSM terms, disorders ā I navigate in my daily life. And often incorporate commentary on in my writing.
I prefer neurocomplexity because it acknowledges I am a whole human and my cognition ā entire nervous system actually ā is, by default, complex and highly sensitive. Not something to be pathologized, but instead important to understand so that I can understand Iām not a total fuck up. Because life gets pretty ruthless when youāre a zebra who spent ~40 years trying to be a horse.
āWhy do you need a label? Because there is comfort in knowing you are a normal zebra, not a strange horse. You canāt find community with other zebras if you donāt know where you belong. It is impossible for a zebra to be happy or healthy spending its life feeling like a failed horse."
-Unknown, from āToo Pretty to Be Autisticā by
